Dear Raf 09 Aug 14: Insecurities

     What's up everyone? Thank you all for tuning in with me tonight. I'm back with another Dear Raf Segment for the night. I haven't done one of these in a while, but I got a good topic the other night from an old friend, and I figured I'd role with it. So let's not delay any longer, and get right into it.
   
       Dear Raf: What's with people and their insecurities in relationships?
   
      I think it's a pretty safe assumption to say that most of us have been through this at one point or another. In this particular case, this friend's girlfriend's friend, had some insecurities in her life, and was trying to put words into his girlfriends ear, telling her to watch him as he spoke to a different female. However, the girlfriend is the one who told the guy to talk to the other woman, for his business. So really, the girlfriend's friend should have stayed out of their business, right? Moving along.
    People, we really need to leave past issues with relationships in the past. You will never be successful in your current relationship, if you constantly think something wrong is going to happen due to the last guy/gal. You'll always be on guard and never truly trust the new person that you're with. Just because your last guy beat you for tripping over his Xbox charging cable and made him die in Call of Duty, doesn't mean that the next man is going to beat you as well. Fellas, just because your ex wasn't sorry when you caught her sucking off a guy with a metal mask on in your apartment hallway, doesn't mean the next girl is going to be doing the same. Everyone is different and those situations aren't likely to repeat themselves.
    I once dated this woman who had some insecurities of her own, because her ex wasn't worth two drops of monkey piss. I believe he cheated on her, didn't show her love and affection, you know? Typical trash guy stuff. So when it came to me, she thought she had to always check and see what I was doing all the time. Calling and texting me, wanting to know where I was, who I was with, just ridiculous stuff. What makes matters worse, is that I didn't live in the same city as her. I remember one time specifically, I went to Wal-Mart, and while I was paying for my Skittles (because if you know me, what else would I be buying?), I spoke to the cashier, who happened to be female, while I was on the phone with my girl. I simply said hello, how're you doin, to the cashier, and my girl lost her mind! Questioning who I was talking to, and why I needed to say anything to her period. Just crazy, psychopath stuff. Needless to say, that relationship didn't last very long.
      I do believe one thing though, as it relates to this topic. If every relationship you're in is the same, or ends in the same result, then maybe you are the problem, and not necessarily them. For example, if every guy that you date winds up cheating on you, then what are you doing that is leading him astray? Clearly, there's a disconnect somewhere, and you're not handling business as you should be. If every guy you're with beats on you, no matter how messed up that is for a man to hit a woman, you have to think at some point, that you're doing something wrong that's leading each of these men to beat you, and, you also need to change the type of men you're in to.
    Anyways folks, that's it for tonight. I'm not gonna do a multiple question Dear Raf segment, as those usually wind up being too long. As always, thanks for reading if you're here. I truly appreciate you all, and if you're a fan of what you're reading here, refer me to a friend, hit the like button, share, follow, etc. Thanks for all the continued support, and I'll talk to you all on the next one. Peace.